The greatest form of Child abuse...

     "It is a terrible crime to harm a precious little child. However, the greatest form of child abuse has yet to be mentioned in the media. That is, of a parent/loved one dying in sin without the saving grace of Jesus Christ. When a mother or father goes to his or her grave without being forgiven and cleansed from sin, the children are left in a horrible, cruel dilemma. If the children follow their natural feelings, their natural, strong desire to be with their parents, they must refuse to receive God's cleansing Spirit and, so, go where their parents went. Or, they can follow after godliness, all the while realizing that to receive God's Spirit and walk in God's ways means never to see mother or father again. It is a horrible dilemma. A,  cruelty beyond description perpetrated upon children by parents who will not humble themselves before God. Parents, consider the choices you will be forcing your children to make if you go to your graves in a sinful condition.
     On the other hand, how an offspring's love of mother and father can work hand in hand with the convictions and calling of God, when the parents die in faith. The child then knows that in order to see mother or father again, he must submit to the righteousness of God. What a great demonstration of godly love it is for a parent to fall asleep in Jesus! How that helps the children make the right choice!"

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